I suppose most of us would face financial difficulties at certain points in our lives. Sometimes we really need a helping hand from close friends to tide us over obstacles. I believe in this case, my friend genuinely needed my help but unfortunately, I could not support his request due to my family circumstances. I wish him all the best and hope things would turn out well for him. But somehow I think he could have been more sincere in his request. Perhaps he should have dropped me a call to explain that he is facing severe financial hardship instead of sending me a text. Perhaps he should not have requested me to bank transfer him the money in his initial message, before I even agreed to lend him the money. No friends would like to be treated as an ATM machine!
Sometimes ago, I read an article from The Straits Times on the issue of lending money to friends or relatives. I shared the author's views that if you decided to lend out the money, you must be prepared to write it off. This is because the chances of getting back the money is slim and if you wanted to claim back your money, it could potentially damage the relationship. I am thankfully that my close friends and relatives had not approached to borrow money from me so far. I am not particularly close to this friend of mine and the other time I was approached for money was 4 years ago by one of my my ex-company internship students.With this outlook in mind, I had laid down three principles before lending out my monies:
1) my relationship with the borrowers
2) purpose of borrowing money
3) character of the person
What is your views on lending money to friends or relatives? Perhaps you can share with me your experience, good or bad. I am interested to know.